LETS TALK ABOUT SEX
You spend all day getting ready, looking as radiant as ever. You wear your sweetest lace robe in the morning, while sipping bubbly with your girls and fantasizing about meeting your groom at the altar. Just prior to getting dressed, you slip on your prettiest, laciest under garments and sheer bralette. Just kidding… you’re planning to put your tightest Spanx on or go full-commando, let’s be real.
So, what is the tradition of “consumating” the wedding? According to good old Wikipedia, ‘in many traditions and statutes of civil or religious law, the consummation of a marriage, often called simply consummation, is the first (or first officially credited) act of sexual intercourse between two people, either following their marriageto each other or after a prolonged romantic attraction.’ We like that little addition there, “first officially credited”.
So many things play into how your night will go:
Are you a virgin? Have you two already had sex prior? Do you already live together? Have you talked about this special part of the night? Are you leaving for your honeymoon right away? Do you have a hotel room, suite, or special place to spend the night? Are you nervous? Do you plan to head to your room right after your reception – or stay out for a bit with your guests? Point is: there are so many variables that makes it hard to give advice.
A FEW GENERAL TIPS FOR THE ‘BEST NIGHT EVER’
1. First of all, don’t hype it up too much. We all know that stress or pressure can cause things to.. ahem.. not function properly. Or on the flip side, stress or pressure can cause things to feel… not as great as they could. #amirite?
If you’ve never been intimate with each other prior, we’re just going to go ahead and advise that you perhaps wait until the next day. No shame in getting some shut eye and going at it once you’re feeling more rested and less full of champagne.
If you’ve been intimate before, pressure should be off! Think of this as the MOST special time you’ll have with each other all evening and truly focus on each other. Don’t let unrealistic expectations cloud your quality time with your new love.
2. Rock those Spanx, girl: we know you want your booty looking as good as possible in that form fitting gown! When you arrive at your hotel room, have your hubby help you unzip or unbutton your gown, but head to the bathroom to freshen up and change into something a little “breezier”. Splash on some of your wedding day perfume, wash your wedding makeup off (your new husband will just love you au naturale), and don’t worry about the fifteen million bobby pins in your hair. You can remove those tomorrow!
3. With so many honorable differences of opinions on intimacy prior to and the night of your wedding, our next tip is to keep hush hush about your activities. Don’t kiss and tell because you may make someone feel uncomfortable and above all, you should respect the privacy of your new husband or wife. You can, however, pull a girlfriend aside and ask her any intimate questions you have!
In closing, we simply want to bring this issue to the table. We’d LOVE to hear your thoughts, stories (good or bad!), and answer any questions if you have them. Pop them into the comments below!
Photographer: Jeanni Dunagan | Film Lab: Richard Photo Lab | Stylist / Planner: Kelly Oshiro | Dress Designer: Jennifer Gifford | Venue: Sunstone Villa | Hair & Makeup Artist: Janet Villa | Veil: Untamed Petals | Slippers: Bella Belle | Delicates + Mask: Journelle | Bodysuit: Hanky Panky | Robe: Flora Nikrooz